What one thing do you wish you had known about life when you were in your 20s?

Dear Young Bill,

1. Porn is Ruining Your Sex Life - So install a porn blocker and give Joey the Password
2. Life isn’t a Rom-Com -You aren’t going to marry Carol, stop trying to earn love if a girl likes you, awesome if they don’t stop wasting your time.
3. Your Parents Are Amazing - Call Them More
4. You’re Not Special - You make yourself special using two tools, discipline, and courage.
5. Say No When You Want To - Learn to say no more. That’s how you focus, by saying no to distractions and people.
6. Stop Planning - You have these huge plans for your life. None of these plans work. Just pick the direction you want your life to go and cultivate skills that are going to make that journey easier.
7. Laugh at Being Jealous - You get jealous a lot, it’s not a big deal. When you do get jealous, say what you’re upset about out loud and start laughing. It will make you feel better and it stops you from taking yourself so seriously.

8. Don’t be Afraid of Being Alone - Time alone isn’t something to run away from it is to be cherished. So work on those novels and screenplays, go to the gym and read books - don’t cry, cultivate skills.

9. Stop Drinking - I know blasphemous, but when you’re 24 you quit drinking and you’re able to have even more fun when you go out to party and you save a lot of time not being hungover.

10. Work-Out - In the future you’re really muscular, part of what’s keeping you from going to the now gym is that you think you can’t put on muscle, you can, so start lifting.

11. Listen to Audiobooks When You Drive and Walk - You waste a lot of time listening to the same songs, over and over again. Listen to audiobooks, you’ll learn a lot and sound smarter.

12. Learn the Rules of Life - Look at life as it is not as you wish it to be.
There are unspoken rules in life, find out what they are and make them work in your favor. This means reading self-development books about relationships, discipline, mastery, economics and body language. Also talk to your Dad more (See #3) because he’s unbelievably wise and you’re unbelievably foolish.

13. Take One Risk a Day - These risks should be to make you better not worse (This isn’t a license to drive drunk), so email CEO’s and talk to pretty girls, you’d be surprised how much doing stuff like this will impact your life.

Bill your life turns out great, and you are on a path to success, but if you did these things earlier, you would have enjoyed life more along the way. These things will not only make you more successful, they will make you happier while striving for success.

Do girls like it when they wake up to a "Good Morning Beautiful" text even though they are not interested in you?

Probably not. Some women like compliments, especially from strangers. Some do not like that at all.

Some women are very particular about what you're complimenting. Some would rather be recognized for their intelligence than their beauty, even if they possess both. 

Some women might find what you're suggesting flattering, others creepy and stalkerish.

A good concept to understand though is that we (all human beings) aren't interested in other people because they compliment us and see how great we are.

We're interested in other people because we find them interesting. We're attracted to their physical beauty, their success, their confidence, their personality, to something about them that is compelling to us.

Compliments require no effort and if given too often, like anything else, become less special and meaningful, and instead become boring and mundane.

Compliments don't make the complimenter seem more interesting. A beautiful woman gets compliments from many men, it does nothing to set you apart.

A compliment from someone a woman has already found interesting might catch her attention, but she only really cares because there's something already attractive to her about the complimenter and this compelling person has shown an interest in her as well. The compliment didn't win her over or change her mind about the person giving it.

So, what is the lesson for you?

Women aren't vending machines. You can't put compliments, gifts, shows of affection, etc in and get a girlfriend, sex, or her interest back out.

If a woman isn't attracted to you, for whatever reason, then that isn't going to change just because you're a nice guy or give her lots of attention and gifts. 

In fact, that may make you even less attractive to her. It may make you seem pathetic because you don't understand what makes women feel attracted to an individual (in general) or aren't assertive and confident enough to move on and find another woman who is interested in you. She may also feel like you think she is some object you can buy, that you believe you can bribe your way into her pants.

No self-respecting, confident women (and let's be honest, those are the most attractive traits a woman can have!), is going to appreciate those sentiments coming from someone who wants to date her.

If a woman really just isn't in to you, be a man and go find one who is. Don't waste your time harassing one who isn't.