The best and simplest way is to remove your own Expectations.
The reasons you are not that social are not because you cannot hold a conversation, lack confidence or are in need of humor or other social skills. It is simply that you expect too much of yourself.
When you learn to never expect to make friends, get love, validation or support and when you stop expecting to gain anything at all from your conversations you become free!
This freedom is what you are looking for. It is what will get you to be social above everyone else because you will stop caring about getting anything at all.
Successful people, experts and all sorts of gurus know this and live by this. They do not need any validation because they are confident in their own ability even when everyone tells them they suck. They do not require any love because they love themselves from the bottom of their heart and know that they are going to be loved and appreciated anyway. And they do not need any support or any more friends because they are comfortable on their own.
All of this makes them free to say whatever the heck they want!! There is a fear inside of you that people will reject you, not like you or even hurt you in some way when you converse with them, which is stopping you from ever going up.
All of this is simply a matter of stopping to care so much. I mean… what’s the worst that could happen?
Some people won’t like you. So what? Others will look at you like you are garbage. Isn’t that more a weakness in them? And others will not even notice you, which is their loss.
In the end it all doesn’t matter because none of it makes you any less valuable than them or than you were before! You are just expecting everyone to love you and that won’t happen. But you do not need it either!
Be fully yourself, laugh out loud, have a lot of haters and even more people that love you!
When you go up to someone next to hold a conversation just remind yourself that you are not looking to gain anything from this conversation. If they end up hating your guts and never talking to you again… Awesome!! And if they fall in love with you, become your best friends or want to do everything with you… even better!
Learn to expect nothing and try to have as much as you possibly can, regardless of what they think of you. Do whatever makes you feel great! That doesn’t mean being a gigantic douche, because that will not make you feel better at the end of the day either. Be kind, fun, giving, have a blast and share that happiness with others, regardless of what they end up thinking of you at the end of the day!
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