Why don't some guys try more if the girl rejects them?

I just met this guy, he said he really likes me and wants to date me. I told him I don't have any special feeling for him yet, and it is too fast. He told me it was okay, but never contacted me again. What does this mean?

It means "No means No."

What you've described is "No means No - except when it means Yes." 

That's a tiresome game to play and it undermines the whole idea of respecting a woman's word.

Of course we know that sometimes some women say No when they mean Yes or Try Again.

For a man to not accept a No at face value from a woman that he does not know intimately, is for him to undermine the whole notion of explicit consent.

In summation, I say the guy did the right thing.

If you want something to happen between you now, you have to state it explicitly. In other words, apply "Yes means Yes".

The leading men in movies can read ladies' minds and charm their socks off because the scriptwriter decrees it with godlike power. If you want a relationship in real life, you're going to have to be explicit about it eventually. Real men don't read minds.

Yes means Yes.

Why does a girl tell me she likes me only as a friend, but she still gets mad if I start going after other girls?

It’s not complicated.

It’s simple. Look how simple it is…

She tells you she only sees you as a friend
You STILL have hope in getting into her pants
So you let her talk shit to you, behave shit to you while I’m a guy who will say..

“Listen woman. I gave you the amazing opportunity to know me and date me, and be my lover. You said no. So whatever I do now, smile at girls, kiss, fuck, eat them out, whatever shouldn’t bother you. Unless it’s because you desire to date me and be my lover. So which one is it?”

Girl - just friend

Me - Good. Then behave like one or stay the fuck away.
I can say that because I don’t fear losing her. You do because you still have hope that she might change her mind.

Forget it.

Talk straight to her. Set boundaries and let her know, she pisses you off again, you ain’t no nice guy who will let her do that..

Say it in your own way, no problem.

I’m more of a direct guy and can’t be assed with any complications.

Stop letting girls walk all over you and psychologically seduce you to be passive-aggressive.

What are 10 or fewer good habits for a 24 year old that can make life better?

1. Exercise. Do some cardio, lift weights, and move your body. It strengthens your body, improves your mood, and builds up your mental toughness. Your body is the only place you have to live in in this life. Without it, nothing can consider as better.
2. Build relationships. Meet strangers, make new friends. Help someone in need, contribute what you can, and provide values to someone else. We’re not here on the earth alone, we’re here as one. In some way, every one of us is connected.
3. Read. I repeated this again and again and again and again on Quora. You’re picking the brain, and you’re time-travelling; while you’re reading. Because you’re learning an idea or a lesson that probably took the author 20 years to figure out, in 20 minutes.
4. Start a business. You gain two things here: understand yourself, and understand the market. Most people want to create a market to serve themselves. But business never works that way - instead, create yourself to serve the market.
5. Practice consistency. Great things never happen on day 1. There is nothing as the overnight success and instant results. Practice consistency, get used to boredness, horn your skills. Set goals then focus on the progress, take tiny actions and celebrate every small win. Never dabble, stop bouncing, opt for mastery.
6. Fail fast, fail often. Failure is never the opposite of success, it’s a part of success. Successful people starts before they feel ready, and yes, they failed. But that’s why they are successful.
7. Do what you’re good at. There are two group of people in their 24 years old. First, a group who endlessly seeking their true calling, the fact is - you’re not going to find it. Second, a group who follow the crowd and focus on what they are bad at, the results - you’re wasting your time. Instead, focus on what you’re good that. In most cases, you love what you do best even you don’t think that’s your passion. And focus on your strengths lead to positive feedback that further push you forward.
8. Do nothing. Practice to let go your thoughts for 10 minutes a day. Take deep breaths, focus on what really make you alive.
9. Say thank you often. Or all the time.

What are some amazing pictures one has to see twice to understand?

I love images with deep meaning, so whenever I stumble upon a good one I save it to my computer. Here are some of the pics in my collection, which I think will give you a different perspective. I would love to read your thoughts in the comment section below.

Those are widely distributed images, so it’s hard to give credit to the real creators. Great work and keep creating such amazing content.

What makes someone a failure at life?

You never hear someone on their death bed complaining about how they wished they:

“got that promotion”

“bought that extra car”

“got that bigger house”

There is a difference between achievement and fulfilment. Achievements are never ending. Once you get them you don’t even have time to enjoy it because you are looking over the horizon for the next one.

People wish they did more like:

“say I love you more often”

“do work that fulfilled them”

“be present at family events”

I’m not saying to go on in life and be mediocre.

If you find each day a thing that makes your day worth it and be grateful that you’ve made it through another opportunity, this will compound drastically with time. Ironically, in time, this will eventually lead you to achieving what actually matters to you. Only this time it will be genuine and fulfilling.

You know what’s worse than failing at something and feeling miserable?

Achieving success and still feeling miserable.

How can I train myself to be more social?

The best and simplest way is to remove your own Expectations.

The reasons you are not that social are not because you cannot hold a conversation, lack confidence or are in need of humor or other social skills. It is simply that you expect too much of yourself.

When you learn to never expect to make friends, get love, validation or support and when you stop expecting to gain anything at all from your conversations you become free!

This freedom is what you are looking for. It is what will get you to be social above everyone else because you will stop caring about getting anything at all.

Successful people, experts and all sorts of gurus know this and live by this. They do not need any validation because they are confident in their own ability even when everyone tells them they suck. They do not require any love because they love themselves from the bottom of their heart and know that they are going to be loved and appreciated anyway. And they do not need any support or any more friends because they are comfortable on their own.

All of this makes them free to say whatever the heck they want!! There is a fear inside of you that people will reject you, not like you or even hurt you in some way when you converse with them, which is stopping you from ever going up.

All of this is simply a matter of stopping to care so much. I mean… what’s the worst that could happen?

Some people won’t like you. So what? Others will look at you like you are garbage. Isn’t that more a weakness in them? And others will not even notice you, which is their loss.

In the end it all doesn’t matter because none of it makes you any less valuable than them or than you were before! You are just expecting everyone to love you and that won’t happen. But you do not need it either!

Be fully yourself, laugh out loud, have a lot of haters and even more people that love you!

When you go up to someone next to hold a conversation just remind yourself that you are not looking to gain anything from this conversation. If they end up hating your guts and never talking to you again… Awesome!! And if they fall in love with you, become your best friends or want to do everything with you… even better!

Learn to expect nothing and try to have as much as you possibly can, regardless of what they think of you. Do whatever makes you feel great! That doesn’t mean being a gigantic douche, because that will not make you feel better at the end of the day either. Be kind, fun, giving, have a blast and share that happiness with others, regardless of what they end up thinking of you at the end of the day!