What are the benefits of losing all emotion?

A lot:

• You don't fall in love- less drama in life
• Somebody is trying to humiliate you? - You don't give a f***
• Friends forgot your birthday? - Never mind, they still are your friends
• Somebody is trying to please you for his own good? - Never falling for that trap
• Somebody is showing off his lavish lifestyle to make you jealous? - Boy o Boy ! He's gonna have a hard time doing so
• Apart from this you get rid of unnecessary obligations.

In short life becomes easy and blissful
bliss - that you can no longer feel :P

What is the key to confidence?

As someone who used to be so terrified to talk to girls that instead of going to school dances I stayed home and played World of Warcraft instead, let me give you a little insight about confidence (and how it is acquired):

Confidence takes practice.

As much as you think that some people are “born” confident and others “aren’t,” the truth is that confidence is just like every other trait: humility, humor, joy, stress, anger, disappointment, etc.

These traits are not inherent. Some are more pre-wired than others, sure, but that doesn’t mean these emotions are not practicable. To be forgiving or to be angry is often a choice. To be open or to be closed is a choice. To be aware or to be destructive is a choice.

Being confident is a choice.

That said, you don’t just wake up and then say, “I am now going to choose to be confident, and joyful, and open, and hilarious, and yay, now I’m all those things.”

It doesn’t work that way.

However, what you can do is decide what traits (confidence included) you want to work toward being a more concrete part of your personality, and then making tiny steps each day to implement those traits into who you are.

If you want to be confident, you have to practice being confident.

So, what would a confident person do?

They’d go talk to that person they’re interested in.

They’d walk into a room and introduce themselves.

They’d pursue their dreams and not worry about what anyone thought of them.

So those are the things you need to practice doing as well.

Next time you’re in an elevator with someone and you want to say hi, take the leap and say hi. The first time you’ll be terrified. The second time you’ll still be terrified. The twenty-eighth time you’ll be terrified. And then eventually you won’t be anymore—for no other reason than because you practiced it.

Just like any other skill in the world, you have to practice it if you want to improve.

Start practicing.

Can hard work beat intelligence?

Hard work will always beat intelligence, only if intelligence doesn’t work hard enough.

And this is a good thing.

Most intelligent people don’t work hard enough, they become complacent and feel entitled in their own bubble of superiority.

I’ve seen it so many times.

I’m a loser, but at least I know I’m smart. So I got that going on for me.

You cannot control how intelligent or gifted you are. What is intelligence? The ability to memorize a book word by word? Or the ability to rationalize and be creative in order to create new models for the world? It’s debatable and the IQ tests that make you match cubes and triangles are no clear predictors of what your actual “intellect” is capable of accomplishing.

What you can control instead is how hard you work. This is where you need to excel, if you create an outstanding work ethic for you that will compound over time, you will get further than any person who just bets the whole farm on their intelligence.

You might be outsmarted, but you cannot be outworked.

Will Smith said the following in an interview once:

“You might be faster than me, you might be better looking than me, you might be more talented than me, you might beat me in 9 out of 10 categories. But if we get on the treadmill together, there’s two things that can happen: You either get off first or I’m gonna die.”

The same applies for intelligence. Adversity and obstacles are the elements that create experiences and memories to know how to tackle situations better next time. A muscle grows only if it’s subjected to contractions.

If you are smart and you don’t encounter these obstacles in your path eventually you will be left behind by the people who decided to put in 150% more than you. Some smart people even make the mistake of only pursuing opportunities they know they can conquer, they fear losing their highest sense of validation, their superior brains.

I once met a guy in his 40’s who told me that when he was a kid he achieved a high enough score (around 148 IQ) to join Mensa. After a bad experience he had in his childhood, he took the IQ test 10 years later and his IQ dropped to 135. He then told me that from that day on he never took an IQ test ever again because he was afraid to see his number go down. Also he made sure never to go again through situations that challenged him in order to preserve his mental health.

Now I don’t know about you but that just sounds ridiculous. I would rather burn my brains out living an exciting life, working hard for my dreams and getting challenged everyday in order to build a life I want even if I get Alzheimer in my 60’s instead of just living comfortably until I’m 90 to preserve my IQ.

Bobby Fischer was a chess prodigy. When he beat everyone in the US he started learning Russian and reading their chess magazines in order to learn their moves so that later he could beat them in international championships.

That’s when intelligence also meets hard work.

You cannot have it all, but you can achieve a lot if you just put in the extra mile.

“Working hard beats being smart. Working smart beats working hard.”

Do you see what the common denominator is in both these sentences?

Work.

There is no way around it.

How do I stop thinking about someone who is not going to be in my life?

You need to (a) accept that they are not going to be a part of your life, (I suspect you haven’t yet), and (b) focus on something else.

If you focus on what you can’t have, you will just feel more of your ‘un-blessedness’ so you need to focus on your blessings.

Why not try some mindfulness work?

You cannot stop loving someone even though it is unrequited. If it is just lust, staying away will help. If you love the other person truly, then that love will never fade. Just accept that she/he doesn’t want you in her/his life anymore and stay away from that person.

May be time and distance will help both of you to realize what you both mean to each other. Till then stay away, otherwise you will be hurt so much. Time doesn’t heal anything. It just teaches you to live with that pain.

True love will never go away and you cannot forget that person. But remember that if things are to happen, they will realize someday. I am still crying as I write this one, because I know how much it hurts to be ignored by the one who means a lot to me. Save yourself from that pain.

And don't tell me he /she is the only one.

He / she is not God.

Trust me on this